By Maricor Villasanta
Any city and town with an active, visible first lady is like a family with a caring and concern “nanay” giving her best all the way. You can depend on her to help manage the house with the “tatay” who is head and king of the family. In a sense, the house is turn home and complete even when no one is looking. Applause! Applause!
But when there is no responsible first lady the home is not whole because obviously the better half does not exist. Only the “best half” is around to tend the home and the yard.
Constituents and the people in general cherish to have an involve first lady, that is a fact. But not the kind of a lady who is merely decorative or power hungry. If she is both one, who indeed needs one?
People, and even party mates of the “king” long to have a first lady who compliments and help balances him in his tasks. If she is nowhere to be found, then what good is her position? Even unofficially at least.
One former first lady easily comes to mind is Michelle Obama, who is admired and respected for her charm and grace matched with the ability to be relevant and visible in simple tasks as the wife of the nation’s executive.
Though a lawyer herself she slowed down with her profession and attended to humble matters like gardening, children and women’s concerns. She is a perfect example of a fine lady who knows herself too well, both in public capacity and private.
One wishes that the other first ladies do the same. It may not be political—which people don’t expect to but complimentary to community issues and concerns. In this country, it is definitely important and appreciated to have a refreshing non-political voice and action for a change.
The problem is, some first ladies live in another planet. They do not care. Either they are arrogant or naive like an innocent “labandera” (laundrywoman). They do not understand the job and the privilege given to them by the lord in heaven. They are blind to the opportunity and honor and loving service to humanity because they are engrossed with their uncaring vision for and of the people.
Such a loss to society. This kind of attitude is reflective of her upbringing and mind-set that is antisocial. Because of her invisibility, her “alalays” and bootlickers—yes, she has her own—make alibis and excuses and justifications to shield her from critical comments.
One such comment is that she could have attended the issue of street children roaming the streets and sleeping below the overpasses. She is a mother after all—and the queen.